How many people truly love making mistakes?? I know that I don’t. Even with all my life experience, knowledge of universal principles, and wisdom I still have a difficult time embracing mistakes… and boy sometimes I can make what feels like are some pretty big mistakes.
Consciously I know that mistakes lead to improvement, success and greater wisdom. I know that they are an opportunity to be compassionate with myself. I know that a mistake isn’t ever a mistake but an adjustment or lesson that I needed for the next part of my journey. I know that every ‘mistake’ has a silver lining to it. Yet I still try to avoid them!
Maybe it was because my father was a perfectionist and mistakes just weren’t allowed. If you made a mistake (which I did a lot as a kid) then it was implied that you were just stupid. I can hear him now…“Why would you do that? You know better.” Oh, he still loved me but boy was I in trouble! Maybe the pressure that I put on myself to be right so that I can avoid mistakes that got me in trouble (and made me feel like I was such a loser) was actually what caused me a lot of unnecessary angst in my life.
MAKING MISTAKES IS PART OF LIFE, AS WE ALL KNOW. GETTING YOUR LIFE TO BE PERFECT WITHOUT ANY MISTAKES IS IMPOSSIBLE EVEN THOUGH SOME PEOPLE PORTRAY THAT THEY ARE MISTAKE-FREE TO THE WORLD. SOMETIMES IT’S SIMPLY MAKING A CHOICE THAT ISN’T SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE THAT IS CONSIDERED A MISTAKE.
My issue with making mistakes is that it can diminish your self-worth if you beat yourself up for them. Your fear of making mistakes can also keep you ‘small’ where you don’t let yourself take the risks in life that you know would benefit you and others.
Mistakes are valuable! It is through making ‘mistakes’ that I have such wisdom. I learn from my mistakes and truly now realize that a mistake isn’t wrong nor does it make me wrong (or stupid or a loser). It simply corrects me on my journey or humbles me enough to be present or pushes me to truly love myself, warts and all. It allows me to connect with others and challenges me to stay out of a victim mindset. They make me real! What if mistakes are just the stepping stones to a new life, a new you? Would they be worth it then?
I’m a question-asker so my questions to you are…
Are there ‘mistakes’ that you have made in your life that you are beating yourself up for still? Do you really need to keep beating yourself up?? Are you allowing those mistakes to diminish your worthiness?
YOU ARE NOT LESS LOVEABLE OR VALUABLE BECAUSE YOU MAY HAVE MADE SOME ‘BIG MISTAKES’. YOU’RE JUST LIKE ME, MAKING YOUR WAY THROUGH THIS LIFE. LEARNING. GROWING. GAINING WISDOM…HOPEFULLY. COME ON, GIVE YOURSELF SOME GRACE! AND IF YOU CAN’T GIVE YOURSELF SOME GRACE THEN ASK…
If I hadn’t made this ‘mistake’ what would I have missed out on?
Your answers lie within. You just need to ask the right questions.
Thanks for listening!
And remember... Your Worth Matters™!
Jennifer
